Welcome to MTN Matchmaking’s monthly dating advice column, where each month we will navigate the labyrinth of love, relationships, and everything in between. Whether you’re searching for the secret to a successful first date, struggling with communication in a long-term relationship, or curious about the intricacies of modern romance, you’ve come to the right place. From practical tips to thoughtful insights, I will help you unravel the mysteries of the heart and find your way to fulfilling connections. So, grab a seat, pour yourself a glass of wine, and let’s embark on this journey together!
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September: The Season of FALLing in Love
September is known as the Season of FALLing in Love! It’s the perfect month to concentrate on trying new things and making new beginnings to enhance your love life. But before we can concentrate on moving forward, we need to recognize the importance of change! Now is the time to focus on shedding old relationships and having the strength to let go of any relationships that you know in your heart are not going anywhere. Realize that nothing is going to change in your old relationship. The only thing that can change is you, and now is the perfect time to get started…
Have you ever wondered why we sometimes go back to relationships that we know are not right for us? Many tend to repeatedly go back to what feels comfortable because it is easier to stay in a relationship, even when we know it is not good for us, than it is to take the steps necessary to move on and be single again.
The fear of being single again is just a mindset that we learned throughout our lives when we were not in a happy frame of mind. The good news is that we have the power to change that. Knowing that September is the perfect time to change and to try new things to improve our lives, we can change fear into excitement about working on ourselves. You’ll be able to attend all the exciting fall festivals this autumn and feel the excitement of meeting new people. Staying positive throughout this transition will be more exciting if we tell ourselves, “We are taking charge of our lives!” Let’s make improvements in our lives and look forward to reaping the benefits of what the “New You” is going to bring! You’ll feel more optimistic every day and excited knowing these new changes will make it much easier to find love this fall.
Steps to Reinvent Yourself This Fall
To reinvent your old self into the “New You” this fall, remember to remind yourself of these three simple steps every day in September:
- Think Positive Thoughts Daily: Every day, think positive thoughts about all the things you are going to work on to make yourself feel excited about getting rid of the old and making simple changes to feel your best. Write a list of all the things you want to improve upon, such as getting into better shape by exercising, eating healthy, and thinking positively about the outcome. Keep telling yourself you will be successful in making these improvements.
- Start Journaling: Start writing in a journal every day about all the positive little steps you are taking to be the best you can be. After a week, you should already feel an improvement with the goals you are setting for yourself. Be proud of yourself for not staying in a relationship that is not healthy. Write in your journal about how good it makes you feel to know you are getting stronger every day. Before you know it, you’ll be attracting love easier than before, and instead of feeling fear, write about how exciting it is to start noticing your improvements.
- Practice Morning Mindfulness: Every day, wake up a half hour earlier to either meditate, do yoga, or just pray to manifest everything you want in your love life. During the day, remind yourself to think only positive thoughts, smile at everyone you see, and remember that change is always good. By the end of the month, you should see and feel the beginnings of the new you… and so will everyone else.
So, get yourself excited about all the new people you’re going to meet … there’s no better month than September to make these changes in ourselves. You can do it…and keep reminding yourself, you will do it!
Please write in and let me know how you’re doing reinventing yourself and how great it feels to be the new you.
With Love,
MTN
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Maureen Tara Nelson has more than 23 years of experience and has personally matched over 1,000 clients across Long Island and Manhattan. In 2024, MTN Matchmaking Services began taking on national clients too! If you’re ready for love and commitment, MTN Matchmaking Services are here for you.
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